When we discussed today’s iMOM Espresso Minute topic in our brainstorm session I was convicted.
I am a bossy wife.
And I know it. I am not terribly bossy just generally. Offhand I couldn’t quite but my finger on how or why I am bossy, my gut just told me the title fit. So I asked Mark because that is just wrong. It is really wrong to know you are doing something wrong and do nothing about it. I want to stop being bossy and the only way out is to face it head on.
So I asked the my hubby, “Can you tell me what I do that is bossy?” And this is what he said:
- You are bossy when you instruct me as if I am one of our kids.
- You are bossy when I do something and you instruct me on how I could do it better.
- You are bossy when you instruct me to do chores that I clearly know I need to do.
I did find a common theme in his assessment–instruction. I need to dial that down a bit. I am on it. Right now, as I write, I am looking out the window at our 12 foot cypress trees that are browning in the dry, spring sun. They need to be watered. But I am going to resist–I am not going to instruct, AKA be bossy, because he clearly knows what needs to be done.
I don’t think being bossy is a hard thing to overcome. It is just a habit and habits can be broken. Somehow amidst the constant instruction of 5 kids I began instructing my husband. Oops! This iMOM Espresso Minute, like most of them, was for me!