confession from a bossy wife
Marriage

A Bossy Wife Confession

When we discussed today’s iMOM Espresso Minute topic in our brainstorm session I was convicted.

I am a bossy wife.

And I know it.  I am not terribly bossy just generally.  Offhand I couldn’t quite put my finger on how or why I am bossy, my gut just told me the title fit.  So I asked Mark because that is just wrong.  It is really wrong to know you are doing something wrong and do nothing about it. I want to stop being bossy and the only way out is to face it head on.

So I asked my hubby, “Can you tell me what I do that is bossy?” And this is what he said:

  1. You are bossy when you instruct me as if I am one of our kids.
  2. You are bossy when I do something and you instruct me on how I could do it better.
  3. You are bossy when you instruct me to do chores that I clearly know I need to do.

I did find a common theme in his assessment–instruction.  I need to dial that down a bit.  I am on it.  Right now, as I write,  I am looking out the window at our 12 foot cypress trees that are browning in the dry, spring sun.  They need to be watered.  But I am going to resist–I am not going to instruct, AKA be bossy, because he clearly knows what needs to be done.

I don’t think being bossy is a hard thing to overcome.  It is just a habit and habits can be broken. Somehow amidst the constant instruction of 5 kids I began instructing my husband. Oops!  This iMOM Espresso Minute, like most of them, was for me!

I confess.

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